crossed wires
mil is in a home , spending the brother in laws inheritance , not in our home.
weve had a succession of moves in the last 10 years, her home and the 3 brother in laws were in town about 15 miles away, when father inlaw died mil moved to a smaller house and garden, then one brother in law moved to spain . then about 5 years ago due to ongoing health issues wife and i persuaded mil to sell the house and move to a rented flat 2 miles from us. about this time one brother law stated that blood would be spilt next time he saw me. something to do with me saying the move would save us 2 thirty mile round trips a week so we wernt worried about turning his 500 yard trip into a 30 mile one cos it only happened once in a blue moon.
we then got mil into a nearby sheltered housing complex, basically her own rented bungalow with pull cords in every room and 24 hour warden cover.
during this period my father had several stays in hospital , on discharge from the last 3 month stay we got him into the local carehome for a fortnights respite care, he was insisting he could look after himself at home but refusing to let anyone but me through the door...cardiac team said he had 6 months.... turned into nearly 18 months. fortnight after he came out the backdoor in a box we wheeled mil in through the front door... when you find the toilet bleach in the fridge and the carton of milk in the bathroom it aint safe to drink the tea.
year and a half on mil is still in the home, not quite sure which planet she thinks shes on most of the time, one brother in law visits 3 times a week , one flys back from spain several times a year and nobody has heard from the 3rd one in two years, though his name does appear in the home's visitor log arround xmas , easter and mothers day.
over the years weve cashed in all mils assets and put the money in a joint account with the wife , when the time comes legally all all the money becomes the wifes as its in a joint account so all we have to do is arrange the funeral and split the remaining money with the brothers in law. there will be no assets so we wont have to go through probate at all.
the only hiccup is liable to be the idiot brother , may moan about where all the money went and demand to see records , but once the bank accounts closed we wont be able to access statements on line and were running it paperless without hard copies so he can whistle in the wind. we discuss very major outgouing with the other two as and when it happens.
in some ways it was easier with my fathers affairs cos i was the only surviving offspring and sole benificiary and executor of the will and had had full power of attorney aswell, though physically disposing of the acculated pocessions took a lot of time.
